Your Spiritual Garden

“Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs”.
~ Mandy Hale

While this is self explanatory, so many people refuse to accept the logic of this statement. Both men and women are guilty of falling in love/lust/like with a facade of a person, or that person’s title, status, money, body, etc. None of these things are important in the long run since money can’t hold you when your sick or comfort you when you lose a loved one. As we get older, our bodies change, no matter how diligently we fight back!

Someone else’s accomplishments don’t offer you anything of substance or character, the stuff a long lasting relationship is built on.

Settling for someone, based on “stuff” is like buying a fake leather coat and getting angry because it peels. You knew it wasn’t real when you bought it, but you decided it was worth the expenditure. No need to complain now that you realize what you purchased was a facade of something real.

People are in this category as well. Real people are not afraid of you seeing who they really are, what is important to them as well as what’s not. Real emotions cannot be handled, controlled or synchronized. Nor should they be.

We are living in times when we cannot hold civil conversations about which candidates to vote for, no matter what side of the fence we are on. While I am as guilty of this as anyone, it is a bit childish and petty. I tend to present my point of view until I see it’s pointless. At that time, I have no problem hitting the BLOCK button. Why continue wasting my time? Relationships should be treated exactly the same way. Why offer yourself to a person who won’t get you, no matter what. Sometimes we are on different wavelengths. And that is just fine, until it’s not.

Look for someone real, a person who cares how your day was, how you feel, right now or what your plans are for tomorrow. I watch Love At First Sight – heard of it? This show is based on “experts” choosing a person for us based on a myriad of details, but especially those based on what participants SAID they wanted. It appears several of these matches are based on lies, either knowingly or unknowingly. Does’t matter, a lie is a lie is a lie! So, for example, if your ideals are only based on physical traits with no character traits, you’re relationship is already challenged because it is based on your fantasy of what a wife/husband should be. Real people are flawed, since real people are human. Going to bed with a full face of makeup – nope. Wearing shape wear 24/7 -that’s a hard no. While I want to look my best for my man, when I’m home, most of my clothes and what little makeup I wear comes OFF – Immediately!

Can you hold a conversation on both big and small ideas. I guess this would be both ideas and ideals. See what your differences are. Are they deal breakers? Some things are insurmountable, others are not.

As always, do the work on yourself. After all, who said “If you don’t want to be with yourself, why would anyone else want to be with you?” Rethink how you approach all your relationships from this point of view and every relationship will smooth out – just like magic!

In case you’re wondering, Yes, this is still a spiritual site. However, I’ve got love on my mind. So while I’ve got the mic, we’ll talk about whatever it is I wish to share. Right now, I am in Full LOVE MODE! Have an amazing week!